Never Compromise Your Character for Anything or Anyone

Hello friends!!

Character:
          The qualities that form the individual nature of a person or thing..
   
There are times when we feel so strongly about something  or someone we lose tract of who we are and begin to focus everything on that thing. We will drop everything when that opportunity comes around or that someone pays us some attention. Sometimes that thing is good, and other times it causes us to change who we are...our character. Sometimes in trying to change to fit inside or near this new "box", we begin to change our shape. Alot of times we allow this thing to become our priority and take control of our lives. These things begin to prey on our hearts and cause us to lose sight of the things that make us happy and give us joy and peace in our lives. In youth, I think we called this "peer pressure" but now our label as adults for it is "stress". Its the things that cause us to take our eyes off God and focus on something else...which, as we were told as teenagers, can cause serious consequences.
I once had a relationship with a guy who was the center of my world. He was my "everything"...my white house with the picket fence, 3 children, 2 dogs and beautiful yard...guy. I loved this guy. I saw my word starting to make sense with him and my existence to have a purpose. You see, I had longed for the love I felt this guy could offer me and the "life" things he would surely give me... I began making myself into what I thought he would want and began changing the core of who I was and what I believed in. Because I became soo needy for him and desiring his love, I became a person I didn't recognise when I  looked in the mirror. The broken places began to add up. I was placing all my focus on him. I wanted him to fill those broken, deep down places in my heart. I wanted him to look at me and tell me I was beautiful or that I was important...I would do anything he wanted just to keep him in my life. I was longing for the places I had been robbed of as a little girl to be fixed and it was important enough to me... to change my character....to allow myself to change in any way...to be that girl he would want and love. Well, down the road, my life had changed so much that I was miserable because I wasn't who I wanted to be, I wasn't who he wanted, I didn't want anyone else and I couldn't see the way out anymore. What a place to be in! What I thought would make me happy had in turn made me a person I didn't even know. All that changing got me no closer to this guy, didn't make hm love me anymore, didn't give me that wholeness or "life" I was looking for.....no, all it gave me was alot of broken, empty space. Had I just been myself, this relationship probably would have came to the same outcome... just alot sooner because we would have know right away we didn't match and his dreams weren't my dreams...AND MY DREAMS DEFINITELY WEREN'T HIS DREAMS. I am thankful now that this relationship didn't work.
You see, we are all different shaped keys and only one key really fits OUR heart and GOD holds that key. Keep him as your focus. Then He will open the door for whoever he wants to allow in your heart. Do not change your character to please people or for success... rely on God to use His keys to unlock the doors and then you will be right were you are meant to be with joy and peace...doing exactly what you were meant to be doing! :)

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